From Social Media to Social Anxiety Disorder


Social media has brought us a lot of things. Some of those are great things like sharing. 

  • We share our joys, we share our sorrows. 
  • We share our highs, we share our lows. 
  • We share our opinions, we share our concerns. 
  • We share our successes, we share our failures.

If you ask yourself a question, have I become a more open and forthcoming person because of using social media, the answer for most of us is going to be a YES. However the counter question 'why' could be a tricky one. Why were you not so open, free and forthcoming before you started using social media? What is/are the factor(s) which make you a different person on social media? The answer may vary a little bit in the way you put it in words, however, the crux is going to be DISTANCE. 

We make so many new contacts, connections and friends over internet whereas we fail to find even a few friends in real life. Distance brings in a lot of ignorance and secrecy. This gives us the space which acts as cushion to be able to open up to the world without the fear of hurt caused by rejection or non-acceptance. A rejection from an unknown(distant) person doesn't hurt as much as it hurts coming from a familiar(close) person. Even if a person is a stranger to you but is standing next to you, the rejection or humiliation coming from the person causes great deal of hurt. Interesting thing though is that acceptance and praise have no such barriers. You welcome those irrespective of the distance factor - a convenient double standard.



It is easily possible that a person having thousands of connections and followers over social media fails to connect and communicate with people face to face. People spending hours and hours over social media are found to be poor at inter-personal skills. Almost 20% of intense social media users have been diagnosed with some sort of psycho-social issues like anthrophobia and social anxiety disorder. This is slowly becoming a cognizable social issue and we need to take some measures to control it.

Ask yourself few questions:

  • Do you prefer to be alone?
  • Are you uncomfortable having people around you? 
  • Do you prefer social media over hanging out with friends?
  • Do you feel restless without your smartphone?


If answers are 'yes', you need to get help now!



Life must be need driven and not greed driven!

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